Poor Planning or Subconscious Sabotage?

In the past few weeks I have seen some of my friends make some decisions and fall into poor planning during their journey down the aisle. While I was discussing these unimaginable scenarios with Mr. AZ I simultaneously went through shock, sympathy and utter confusion. I couldn't imagine what I would do if I was the bride in any of these, and I found most of them helpful- each made me stop and think. I think I learned something from each and that's why I'm sharing it with you, my readers. Most of the time it feels like bad planning but sometimes it looks like clear, possibly subconscious, sabotage.

Scenario 1: Waiting until 3 months before the wedding to start thinking about invitations for a wedding with 300 people on the guest list.

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I think Scenario #1 is more a result of not understanding how long the design to print process takes. If you work with a designer you really clique with it can be a breeze, but sometimes translating your vision into paper can take a while. So if invites are very important to you began early! If not, then 3 months should be fine. I began planning my invitations with Liz at Blush Design Studio a good 8 months in advance. Granted we did not finalize them until 5 months in advance but it never felt rushed or hurried, which I really appreciate.

Scenario #2: Being wish-washy on the bridesmaid's dresses and letting your MOH change your entire wedding color palette.

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I'm not talking Blush Pink to Bubblegum ladies, I'm talking RED to GREEN. Seriously, like a stop light. This scenario largely occurred because of bride's indifference to the bridesmaids gowns and general laissez faire attitude. Was she upset? A little. Did she really argue, no. Was her wedding beautiful- of course it was. This really boils down to the same question as above- does it matter to you? Because in weddings sometimes you have to pick your battles. I think if it really mattered to the bride she would've spoken up.

Scenario #3: Bride returns wedding gown 26 days before the wedding.

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No, this is not a SYTTD episode, this is real life. Oh and by the way the bride in question leaves for Hawaii (for her destination wedding) in 23 days. Her reasons for returning her original gown were that it "wasn't the one", well being 23 days away from your W-Day and having to buy a whole new PERFECT dress and have it tailored... it seems almost impossible. But this bride is getting married on the beach- so she may be able to buy a beautiful gown off rack that doesn't require as extensive tailoring, so it's very possible. It's a stressor I don't want a month before my wedding, but I don't make the rules for everyone- so if you are a level headed lady that can deal with that- I applaud you. It simply wouldn't work for me.

Have you been a victim of poor planning? Have you seen any examples of subconscious sabotage from your friends who are getting married? Does seeing other weddings around you make you want, nay crave being a Wedding Planner so that this doesn't happen to other brides, or so that you can help them make the best out of their situation?