But my wonderful, logical, Spock-like engineer fiancé found the perfect solution: I Do Now I Don't a site that sells previously owned engagement rings. I am very careful as to whom I share this information with, as many people are very judgmental, but I can't think of a more responsible way to buy a ring. The rings are appraised by a jeweler and held in escrow while the jeweler verifies that what the seller has said about the ring is wholly true.
I think its truly one of the most responsible things to do, its recycling at its finest. But I remind myself that "you can't please all the people all of the time." I love my ring and I'm not superstitious, that's all that matters.
I highly recommend a secure site like I Do Now I Don't. What advice can you give to those in waiting about the purchase of their e-ring?