But it's so much more than that... I got into a fight with my mother regarding the "traditional" way of addressing a married couple. I know what a silly thing to fight over but think about it. The Traditional Emily Post version requires you address a married couple by the man's full name.
Mr. & Mrs. George Smith
Mr. AZ's first reaction was that these rules are archaic as they were written in the 17th century and applied only when a woman's only job was to be married and keep house (which is a noble thing, being a stay at home mom is work), but it really doesn't apply to women and couples of today. Needless to say I rather agreed with him. But my mother was adamant that this was how I should address my Aunt and Uncle So I will abide by her decision because it's her sister and she would know best. I also consulted my FMIL as to how she would like her family addressed.
So Mr. AZ and I decided to go with the family's wishes on family invitations. For our young married friends we did decide to use the more progressive...
Mr. & Mrs. Smith
I know, totally liberal ey? I didn't think so, but apparently in the eyes of some family members (my mother) it's very women's lib. (That's actually how she referred to it)
Are you finding yourself addressing your peers in a different way than your older family members?