Addressing the Invites...

This may have been one of the most emotional things I did during my entire wedding planning. I know what you're thinking not that hard, stick a name on an envelope and make it pretty...

Via: Weddingbee Calligraphy by: Laura Hooper 

But it's so much more than that... I got into a fight with my mother regarding the "traditional" way of addressing a married couple. I know what a silly thing to fight over but think about it. The Traditional Emily Post version requires you address a married couple by the man's full name.

As in...

Mr. & Mrs. George Smith

Mr. AZ's first reaction was that these rules are archaic as they were written in the 17th century and applied only when a woman's only job was to be married and keep house (which is a noble thing, being a stay at home mom is work), but it really doesn't apply to women and couples of today. Needless to say I rather agreed with him.  But my mother was adamant that this was how I should address my Aunt and Uncle So I will abide by her decision because it's her sister and she would know best. I also consulted my FMIL as to how she would like her family addressed.

So Mr. AZ and I decided to go with the family's wishes on family invitations. For our young married friends we did decide to use the more progressive...

Mr. & Mrs. Smith

I know, totally liberal ey? I didn't think so, but apparently in the eyes of some family members (my mother) it's very women's lib. (That's actually how she referred to it) 

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I guess being a post-women's lib woman has really altered my whole point of view from those women who were born before it. Whereas my mother thought it horribly rude to address a married couple without the husband's first name, I find it incredibly sexist to only include the man's first name. I'd also like to note that being a post-women's lib man my fiancé was equally horrified by it.

Are you finding yourself addressing your peers in a different way than your older family members?