It's NOT a Competition

Let me address my sometimes severely Type A personality. Most of my Future In Laws already know that my shout of "I WIN" to making good guacamole or winning at Banagrams is just genuinely me. I like to make everything into a "fun little game" and then focus intently on the way to WIN said game. To quote Maria Bamford's set "Life isn't a game, but if it is- I'm winning."

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No one would be grading my "wedding work" so why did it all matter? Because I am a self-confessed sometimes-perfectionist. I found reading blogs about less than perfect people to be quite helpful. But the greatest gift any wedding blog has ever given me was this one simple article... Your Wedding is Not a Contest by the Offbeat Bride. Finally someone telling me in no uncertain terms that it's okay to break tradition and it's okay to be somewhat traditional too- and that there was really no way to get it wrong. It's just about us.
 
So if I want to wear a champagne gown that initially my mother threw a tantrum over; and if we do want to get married in a Chapel- not a Church; even if we want to get married an hour and a half away from the major airport; even if we  think the bouquet toss is silly; and even if we hate wedding cake and love bread pudding.... it DOESN'T MATTER! Don't get me wrong, I don't mean it doesn't matter to us- it just means that being authentically us from our Alt-Rock musical stylings, our beautiful Chapel far away from the city, and my amazingly not white gown... it's perfect just the way it is.

We're not quite traditional....

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but not quite offbeat....

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We're somewhere in the middle...which was just right for Goldilocks.